Make 2018 The Best Year Yet
We all know how stressful the holidays can be. From Halloween to Thanksgiving, Christmas and then New Years.
Every thing happens in rapid succession.
We seldom have time to sit and really think about what is important to us and what we want.
How do you want the next year to go? What do you want it to look like?
What sort of goals do you think are truly attainable?
Getting caught up in the everyday life is easy.
Paying the mortgage and writing that cheap insurance check are grown-up responsibilities.
But what about happiness? When was the last time you went on a vacation?
As the holidays wind down, and you plan to head back to work, take a few moments to sit and reflect on what the 2018 year will bring.
Will it to be possible, and then make steps to put your ideas into action.
Let’s take a look at what that might look like.
Being An Adult
No one tells you that growing up and being an adult mostly consists of making money and paying bills.
Purchasing a home and getting your homeowners insurance is one huge task.
Stressful and detailed, we do everything we can to provide for our families. But what about providing for ourselves?
We become healthier people by putting ourselves first every once in a while.
Getting a car and your car insurance, finishing school, or planning a wedding are all huge events that dictate our time and money.
Depending on where you are at in your life, planning ahead might be a great tool for you to use.
So this year, whether it is to lose weight or think of ways to make more money, actually sit down and take a moment to ponder what this next year will bring.
Being an adult is hard. It comes with a lot of responsibility. You need to have good time-management skills.
You might be planning for your next event or social gathering. Maybe you are doing chores around the house or trying to purchase cheap insurance.
But take a few moments to schedule down time. Yes, I said it.
Schedule down time.
Not just mental but physical. Health is important for daily function and for making the most of your life.
The best way to ensure your own happiness is to reflect on the past year and then come up with ways to make the new year even better.
But what is better to you? Does that mean being more productive? Does it mean having more children?
Here is what that might look like:
- Tell your spouse and children to not come into your room for 30 minutes.
- Do this at a time when you know it will probably work, and they can keep busy. You do not want interruptions.
- Light some candles or maybe open a window for some fresh air.
- Sit with yourself.
- You can meditate or write in a journal.
- Maybe you want to sip on some hot tea or coffee.
- Make a list of all of the good things you want to focus on. Put all of your energy into positive thought.
- Relax. Maybe you want to take a long, hot shower. Do it and don’t feel guilty for enjoying yourself.
Making A List
So now that you have had time to yourself, and you are relaxed and maybe even a little wiser, sit down.
Take out a notepad and start jotting down your feelings about what you truly want out of life.
Nothing is too crazy or extreme. Nothing is unattainable.
Even if you know factually that some of the things on your list may not happen, write them down anyway.
Your list may look like this:
- Travel to Greece and spend a week laying on the beach.
- Buy a new car with more room for the kids, dogs, groceries.
- Visit three museums with my spouse.
- Re-landscape the backyard.
- Read 50 books this next year.
- Write my first novel.
- Enter a 10k run and finish it.
- Make a new friend.
- Hire a house cleaner for the year and keep my home looking wonderful.
- Stop smoking
- Start running.
There are millions of examples of things that are hard to do.
They might seem daunting or unrealistic.
But a year is a very long time, and there is always room for improvement.
Do It Together
When you are thinking about what the future holds, talk to your spouse and family.
You can make a list for yourself (that is important)!
But sitting down your family and making a list together is very valuable.
You might even suggest to your immediate family members to go in separate rooms and make their lists.
Then come together and share what everyone wants for the family this year.
A list from everyone might end up looking like this:
- Go to Disneyland.
- Paint the house.
- Lose ten pounds.
- Get weekly messages.
- Make more of an effort to attend church together.
- Pay off all debts.
- Renew vows with the whole family.
- Pass my drivers test.
A list that you make with the whole family will hold people accountable.
And hopefully this way, you can all make progress towards your goals.
How To Make A List
The first thing you need to do when you sit down is prioritize what is important to you.
Make a clear focus for your new years resolutions.
- Take out your yearly schedule and fill in the spaces as much as possible. This will give you a guideline for when things are happening and how much time will be left over. Maybe one of your goals for the new year is to be more organized. This is great! Filling out your yearly calendar will help you along with this process.
- When you pen in the bigger plans for the year, you will have a clearer idea of how much time you will have left over. Start to fill out the possibilities that you want for yourself in the calendar. You can use the “notes” section of the planner to jot down different ideas as well. Being visual is very important. If you plan to do this on your computer, make sure that your planner is an icon on your desktop. You will want your goals to be easily accessible too.
- List your projects for the year with a clear focus. If you want to lose weight, write down exactly how you plan to do this. Such as: getting a personal trainer twice a week. Or joining a gym and going on Tuesdays and Thursdays after work. If you don’t get specific about your plans, they will just stay plans and there will be no action taken.
- Continue to create good habits with your life. If you plan to be organized, then start writing things down and making yourself sticky notes. If you want to sleep more, then prep your clothes the night before which allows you extra time in the morning to sleep. Maybe you want to spend more time with your family. This might mean cutting out other extra curricular to make this happen. These healthy habits will not only benefit you, but your family and loved ones. There is nothing wrong with working towards being your better self.
The reality is we are not super-human. We only have time for so many things each day. So prioritize your life.
Make a list from one to ten of the most important things to you.
If you ever get caught up on which choice to make: stay at home with the family or play a round of golf, just look at your list.
Whichever ranks higher is the one you should do. On the other hand, placing importance on certain things will shift and change as life goes on.
Give yourself some grace and the ones around you.
If your New Year’s list has small items on it such as: detail the car, don’t put it off just because it is smaller than other ideas.
You may never get to it if you put it off. The best way to attack your list and to give yourself momentum is to attack the smaller items first!
You will feel successful and keep momentum going strong.
Here are New Year’s Resolution Ideas
- lose weight
- start running
- start eating healther
- stop procrastinating
- spend more time with family
- improve concentration
- meet new people
- become more active
- strengthen core
- take more chances
- get in tune with my spirituality
- finish school
- start taking classes
- learn how to cook
- earn more money
- save for retirement
- detail my cars and keep them clean
- purchase better cheap insurance for my family
- become more polite
- be romantic
- reduce stress
- learn how to meditate and do it daily
- read 20 books this year
- learn to be happy with what you have
- get more quality sleep
- quit smoking
- watch less tv
- find a spouse
- get married
- plan my honeymoon
- have a baby
- spruce up my sex life
- try to be cleaner
- become more organized
- buy new clothes and dress nicer
- learn to budget
- spend more time with people that I love
- stop drinking
- learn to drink in moderation
- get out of debt
- start a savings account
- invest my money and learn how to do it well
- learn a new language
- volunteer and give back to my community
- find another fun hobby to explore
- learn to let go of things that bother me
- adopt a cute pet
- travel this year
- go on more vacations
- get a raise at work
If these didn’t make the cut, find more New Year’s resolutions here.
Ways To Make Your List A Reality
When you have made a list and you feel good about it, take action.
A few things to consider before taking action are the roadblocks along the way.
- One road block is what other people may say or think about you and your ideas. This is huge. Peer pressure is one way to get yourself off of your course. You are the captain of your own destiny so be in control. Try and let what other people say just roll off of your back. You may have friends who are not at the same place in their lives as you are in yours. They may be procrastinators, or have no goals for themselves. They may try to lead you in a direction that you are not wanting to go. It isn’t their fault, they just are not as driven as you are. Maybe they don’t have a family to think a bout. Whatever it is, you need to be able to say no to people even if you love them.
- The people who are around you and who love you can have a huge influence on what you do. So tell those who are closest to you such as your spouse, what your plans are. Ask them to hold you accountable. Make sure that they support you and are on the same page. Maybe some of your goals are mutual goals that you and your spouse or you and a friend have in common. Attack them together. Two is a greater force than one.
The best is yet to come…
- Look for those who have the same ideas and ideals as you do for this upcoming year. Surround yourself with those who are inspiring and will help to motivate you. Pay close attention to people who have the same type of habits you do. Are they easy to talk to and get along with? Are they motivated? Is there something in their life that makes you want to change yours for the better? These are the types of people you want to be around when you are truly trying to change things. Your course of action can be influenced greatly by the people in your life.
- Taking care of yourself by eating healthy and exercising are the best ways to help you reach your goals. Maybe your goals are to eat healthy and start running. Well, these two ideas will boost you in a forward projection that you never thought possible. With the right diet, studies say that your brain chemistry can actually change! So help yourself and treat your body right. Give it the nutrients it will need to get you through the next year in a better way than the last.
One of the best things I have ever been told about goals is that you need to visualize what your life will be life in the future.One way to do this is to write yourself a note from the future. Think of the pinnacle of where you want your life to be, and then write it from that perspective. Maybe you are writing to yourself saying how much money you make or how beautiful your children are. Write it thoughtfully. Then store it away somewhere where you can pull it out in a couple of years. Or maybe monthly so that you can re-boost your confidence in the future!
Luck is on your side.
Make 2018 the best year yet by planning and writing down all of your goals.
You will be happy you took the leap of faith in yourself.